How to define your individuality ?

I don't go by or change my attitude based on what people say. At the end of the day, they, too, are judging me from their perspective. I would rather be myself and let people accept me for what I am than be somebody who I am not, just because I want people's approval. .

We are meeting people at a rapid speed, networking has become far more important in today’s world than ever before. The way we been meeting people has almost diminished the existence of the word STRANGER! The very ease of connecting do bring something in a far more chronic manner, one of the things we name it as insecurity, its not always the case of how we present self externally, indeed what we talk has more impact, and sadly it has left a very narrow lane for the people who wishes to be what they are or wishes to be honest. The constant effort of pleasing the other to match up with its thoughts and ideologies to fit into its club diminishes your believe in yourself in a longer run, constant doubting over the fact of what you feel and act needs to get criticized at every step is not healthy. We need to realize sooner or later we are not here to fit into everyone’s club, we cannot. Its very unrealistic to be everyone’s friend. Trust me even Obama have a club who protest for whatever reasons they have. Changing self on the basis of what people think about you is going to be the worst you gonna gift to yourself. You will ruin your individual identity is not practical indeed inhumane. Yes its always a good effort to better yourself in every aspect, a good communication to a good presentation skill always comes handy but it should be self taught in the aspect which benefits you rather for else's approval.


So here are some of my tips and tricks to understand your own worth.

  1. Meet people, be open to all the communities and connect.

  2. Always be humble and yet be honest about your opinions, “apologies” and “sorry for any offense” exist for the occasions to avoid any upcoming friction.

  3. If you are not much aware of the topic one is trying you to deal with, you have every choice to pass or simply agree, unless you think the person needs a correction.

  4. The habit of been honest about your ideologies do comes with experience, be open to criticism but if you think you have enough experience to prove your point be fearless.

  5. You cannot filter people unless you connect, connect and if you think friction is all you been having with the other, politely disconnect. The effort is not worth it.

  6. Stand on your ideologies, one who does, stands self as an odd man out. Your individual identity gets the respect it deserves and your confidence is intact. People do get attracted and wish to connect to be alike.



Hey, I am Shovona, a freelance commercial photographer, a story teller, a blogger and some one who wishes to define individuality, I have been a victim of bullying and sexual abuse. It took me a decade to accept myself the way I am been born. In past many years I have met people who suffer with much insecurity, I do not guarantee to diminish it all together but I have always tried to help as many as possible.


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